The Relationship Sanctuary Toolkit

Navigate triggers, repair disconnection, and feel safe with someone.

A free workbook with body-based practices for healing relational patterns - whether you're single or in a relationship.

Drops October 27, 2025

You know that feeling when something small sets you off and suddenly you're flooded?

Your chest tightens. You want to run or fight or shut down. You say things you don't mean or go silent when you want to speak.

And then you tell yourself you're overreacting. Too sensitive. Making it bigger than it is.

But here's what's actually happening: your nervous system just detected threat. Not because your partner (or date, or situationship) is dangerous right now, but because somewhere in your past, something similar was.

That's relational trauma. And it shows up in every relationship until you learn how to work with it.

What this toolkit gives you

✨ Understanding Triggers - Tools to understand what's really triggering you and what your triggers are trying to tell you

✨ The Pause Practice - What to do in the moment when you're activated (micro-pauses to deep grounding)

✨ The Curiosity Reframe - How to shift from defensiveness to curiosity (this one changes everything)

✨ The Trigger Map - See your patterns so they stop controlling you

✨ The Repair Process - The 3-step process for coming back after disconnection

✨ Grounding Rituals - Body-based practices that actually bring you back to yourself

✨ Solo & Partner Practices - Exercises you can do alone or with someone

This isn't therapy. It's not a communication course. It's body-based practices for healing the wounds that make intimacy feel impossible.

No spiritual bypassing. No telling you to just breathe through red flags. No making you wrong for what your body knows.

Just real practices that help you:

  • Understand why you react the way you do

  • Regulate when you're activated

  • Repair when you mess up

  • Feel safer in connection

This toolkit is for you if:

  • You want intimacy but your body won't let you stay close

  • You keep repeating the same patterns in relationships

  • You know your triggers but don't know what to do when you're activated

  • You're recovering from past relationships and want to heal before the next one

  • You're in a relationship and want to stop hurting each other

  • You're tired of being told to just "communicate better"

This is also for you if you're single. Healing relational patterns doesn't require being in a relationship. It requires being willing to look at them.

The Relationship Sanctuary Toolkit

What you'll be able to do after using this toolkit:

  • Recognize when you're triggered (and what to do about it)

  • Pause before you say something you'll regret

  • Repair after disconnection instead of letting it fester

  • Actually feel safer in relationships over time